aLBoP a Scam? Drama, Scandal, Ooh Ahh!

Once upon a time, last winter, we moved A Little Bit of Personality to WordPress from Blogger. It was a long, tedious process with a lot of formatting (which on some posts I’m still not pleased with). The site was down for almost a month. All the urls changed, even though I went through and made redirects for as many as I could.  And all our Google+ comments got removed (which honestly was part of the point of moving platforms.  It was being an annoying system).

All this led to the complex set of algorithms which is Google Search to be very confused as to what was important on aLBoP.  When you Googled aLBoP or A Little Bit of Personality, suddenly it was trying to give search results of random image links and obscure posts, instead of things people really wanted to find, such as Type Specializations, the Super Simple Series or Type Heroes.

It also didn’t help that we were working on other aspects of aLBoP and life in general, so posting has been a slow game all year.  As I understand it, Google prioritizes frequent posting, as well as Google+ shares (nepotism 😜 lol), neither of which were in our favor anymore.

But this also meant that non-aLBoP links, especially from popular sites, suddenly came up much earlier in search results.  One in particular, with the most click-bait-y subject line ever, notably rose to the first page of search results right away: a forum thread with the subject line “A Little Bit of Personality Blog: Is it a scam or did I overreact?”

Well if the promise of a scam won’t get people to listen to you, I don’t know what will.  Talk about the most buzzwordy word possible lol. Continue reading

The Four Types of Love

“What is love?” is a question that has been asked throughout the ages, by philosophers, poets, and Haddaway–insert obligatory head tip here.  While that is a perfectly valid question, and you guys know how heart-eyes we are for proper definitions around here, I think instead today we’ll ask the ever so aLBoP question, “How can we use double-dichotomies and the Four Types of Information to better understand love?”  Because dichotomies are sexy, dontcha know? 😉

Conveniently, the Greeks had four main words for love.  Now, my intent is to use the Four Types of Information to help us break down love into component parts, to both understand it more fully, define it more accurately, and help us apply these four sides of love to our own lives and relationships in order to see where our relationships are succeeding, and where they might stand to improve.  As such, I might have to alter the definitions of the Greek terms somewhat from their originals.

The Four Types of Information are fundamentally equal, whereas it wasn’t the Greeks’ intent to make their four kinds of love equal, so it stands to me to fudge a bit.  But hopefully I can still do justice to what Plato, Aristotle, etc. meant by their terms.

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Bloopers Video to Celebrate 4 Years of aLBoP!

Last week marked four years of A Little Bit of Personality, so to celebrate we decided to share a goofy behind the scenes look at our very first video, made three years ago! The filming process took twelve hours straight, with a lot of sweat, a little bit of tears, and a lot of silly outtakes. Here are our favorites.

Thank you guys for everything you do! aLBoP is made worthwhile by you guys, and we seriously couldn’t ask for better friends than the ones we’ve found through this amazing journey ❤️

See the original video here.

Music credits:
Locally Sourced – Jason Farnham
Sunny –
Dance –
Pop Danthology 2012 – Daniel Kim
Funny Song –
Ukelele –
Clap and Yell –

Type Heroes: INTJ – The Dragon

All the typings and observations in this post are based on definitions and information presented in the aLBoP Guided Tour 😀 So if any of it bugs you, please go read that before leaving me a grumpy comment… Or, you know what?  Let’s just skip the grumpy comments!  Have a nice day! <3

The Dragon

“I seek the means to fight injustice;
to turn fear against those who prey upon the fearful.”
Bruce Wayne, Batman Begins

The INTJ Dragon is the dynamic facilitator of the world as it might be.  Backed by the unyielding efficacy of universal principles and the useful plans of action which proceed from them, the Dragon knows just how to shape large-scale trends with penetrating accuracy.  Majestic and surprising, these titans excel at unleashing the world’s untapped potential.

With big, wide eyes for Principles and the use of what could be, young INTJs immediately see a special world, not immediately visible to most; a world of complete, interworking elegance, where anything you imagine *can* be accomplished, the only limit being on how much you know and understand the world and its trends.  So, from a very young age, little INTJs will be bursting to know about how things always work, trying to extend the borders of their capacity to do and change.

Complex little things, with a depth of desires and goals that usually extends beyond what their years and size might let on, young INTJs are usually quite varied, and often the same little INTJ will be vastly different depending on their surroundings, with the same INTJ alternating from silly and effusive in a situation where they feel comfortable, to withdrawn and closed down in a situation where they feel like their hidden depths are undesired or unsafe.

With their feelings and motives late in their cognitive process giving ITJs a natural inclination to cloak and protect their feelings, and with very little patience for shallow interactions and associations, it might be hard to tell what’s going on inside a mini INTJ (or a full-sized one).  And with INTJ’s Type Specialization of discovering and accomplishing the unused potential of what the world can be, little INTJs can often be accused of not caring about the needs or social desires of others, with extreme examples of young INTJs being called “heartless” or “monsters” for not wearing their vaulted hearts on their sleeves.

In a culture where status-quo is god, where the ability to keep one’s life from changing unexpectedly is lauded as the pinnacle of safety and responsibility, INTJ’s natural desire and ability to bloom change on an epic scale is often deemed immensely frightening… which leads to the ever-present portrayal of INTJs as villains in media (and regurgitated stereotypes >:C ).

When society treats INTJs like villains for a desire to shape and change the world into the beautiful thing they can imagine, a little INTJ can quickly become disheartened as their experiences with individuals (their last and most vulnerable cognitive step) teach them that their desires are too forceful, to ambitious, too idealistic, and too isolated.

For all cognitions, our last steps are our greatest struggle, leading to our Type Angsts.  For INTJs, this means that all their frustration and self-disappointment with feeling like their motives aren’t stable and reliable enough, as well as feeling lost about what motivates others, gets interpreted within INTJs as a deep, core fear that everything is their fault.

Used to being able to line up their plans as the natural continuation of Principles, and follow through to make things happen, INTJs naturally end up fearing that if something went wrong on the way to the ideal of what could be, that it could have been avoided had they personally done something different.  If only they had been faster, stronger, better, cared more, not trusted individuals so much… been in control of themselves and everything they touched, then things would have just gone right, and safe and like they were supposed to.  We call this deeply embedded fear and the ways INTJs cope with it, Anakin Angst.

These fears and interactions give an INTJ three choices.

The first is to react to Anakin Angst by insisting that they truly *can* be in control of everything, that they can make the world they imagine… if they just go around everyone who is getting in their way.  Often with resentment of those who do not grasp their vision, these first choice INTJs will be undeniably driven to accomplish the feats they know are within their reach, if they just push the limits a little farther.

But these INTJs are also likely to pull inward, shutting down to people, who just start looking like a liability in the way of what needs to be accomplished.  And since other people have wills of their own, this clenching INTJ is likely not to be able to just go around everyone.  In the pursuit of their own visions, this INTJ can easily end up stepping on the visions and Type Specializations of others, adopting an attitude, perhaps without even meaning to, that others’ ambitions, desires and wills must be of less use, if they can’t see what needs to be done to achieve the giant end goal.  When INTJs consider others’ desires to be subservient to the big picture, they can end up trying to force others’ wills, often even becoming an example of the very thing they wanted to fight in the first place.

But INTJs who insist on pursuing their visions without regard to the people around them will find their destination cold, lifeless and alone, lacking the brightness of other points of view and wills going in their very own directions.  A world without perspective from every direction, and every Type of Information and Objective represented, won’t have either the use or meaning it needs, and that’s hardly the smooth-running utopia that an INTJ may picture.

The second option INTJs have, is to defer to those who insist their ambitious hopes for the world are just too drastic, dramatic and long-sighted, and so they temper their own goals to fit the expectations of those around them.  Surely, they think, their vision of the future is as dangerous and inconsiderate as it is portrayed.  Surely they should let others, with safer intentions, protect individuals from their damaging objectives.  And so the INTJ tries to put away the planetarium of their minds in favor of following the path that is already set, or risk the possibility of breaking the world the ones they love, love.

The ironic thing is that these second-option INTJs often end up afraid and withdrawn from the very people they hoped to protect and care for, assured that their intentions are something that they need to keep away from others, or end up hurting them in the process.  And in addition, as they grow deflated about others’ opinions of their motives and intents, this INTJ is likely to feel unwanted and close off their secret heart from others.

But an INTJ who has halted the pursuit of the potential they envision will inevitably end up discovering that trying to quarantine their true desires doesn’t actually end up keeping the ones they love from harm.  Meanwhile, their ability to make good in the world is tragically minimized as they refuse to stand and live up to their own personal power.

However, the INTJ story need not have a dark ending.  Despite what INTJs may fear when the path seems lone to carry out ideals that some would never think to expect, their designs and ambitions are wanted and desired by individuals who love the inspiring might that healthy INTJs bring with them.

If this third INTJ turns to those who can ground them in the meaning and worth of individuals, including themselves, they will be able to gather the strength to reject the negative image that many would give them of their own character.  And as INTJs learn to love the person they are, by listening to those who truly see them and know their hidden depths, then their visions are given the perspective of hope.  And an INTJ with true hope is completely unstoppable.

Because the world needs those who can wield universal principles like cleansing fire, people who are ready to stand and do the hard things in order to protect those who cannot protect themselves, those who can use sweeping trends like wings to further grand plans; in short, the world needs INTJ Dragons.

The INTJ Dragon is found often and memorably throughout fiction.  Whether it’s as the fearless mentor and leader who isn’t afraid to push their protégés to their limits, the child with power and secrets that even they themselves do not understand, the scholar who has more adventure in them than might first meet the eye, or yes, even the villain who is always one step ahead of the heroes—the Dragon is always there with their gears turning.

And in fact, even though I usually reserve an examination of the “Dark side” of each Type Hero for the end, it seems with the Dragon I can’t wait that long.  INTJs are so very often cast as villains, to the point that it’s joke worthy, that we really can’t go on longer without addressing the fictional fascination with Dark Dragons.

But I think the major reason that INTJs are so often cast as villains in stories, besides fear of the change that INTJ’s Type Specialization brings, is that they really are pretty bad-A at it.  I was nervous to include so many villainous examples in this post, as part of my intent in writing The Dragon is to overcome the stereotypes associated with this wonderful cognition… but the thing is, it’s hard *not* to love Dark Dragons.

In a world that often treats power itself like a villainous trait, our sense of archetype finds it refreshing seeing characters who both have and use the power necessary to take the world by storm, shaping it and changing it, letting nothing stand in their way.  How can we not feel a thrill of excitement when these titans come on the screen or page, their thunderous theme music filling us.

But the lie, I believe, that our culture buys into in this case, is that power itself is the treacherous slope that has brought these leviathans down their dark paths.  As our true heroic Dragons show us, power used to protect, nourish and empower the individual wills of others, as opposed to subverting them, is something we desperately need more of.

I found it fascinating to realize how often within the same piece of fiction, both the teaching mentor and the villain would be written as INTJ.  Dumbledore versus Voldemort, Professor Charles Xavier versus Magneto, Nick Fury versus Loki, Elrond versus Sauron; over and over again, the author gives both the student-protagonists and ourselves the prospect of two potential worlds, given voice by two powerful INTJs who can imagine very different scenarios of how the world could be.

But our mentor INTJ has been to the edge, they’ve seen the slippery slope of power, and realized that the rise and fall of every civilization has one thing in common: its people.  A Dragon who has been to the other side of Anakin angst and is ready to lead others to the magnificent world they can imagine, realizes that they’ll never get there without individuals to back them up, fuel their way, and show them that what brings their world color, is the people in it.

Like all IJs, INTJs feel like “if I don’t do it, no one will,” and as the most future-oriented of the most zoomed-out types (NT, IJ), the Dragon is enduring, patient, and calculatingly meticulous, toward the larger end goals they’re trying to achieve.  But when not left alone, the Dragon can be an immense friend.

While they might have to go out of their way to show just how much they care, Dragons love people quite deeply, especially those who have shown integrity and a lasting appreciation of the principles they hold the dearest.  And though they might not expect to find those who will truly love, respect and see them for who they really are, the Dragon is likely to latch onto such people like the ray of brightest hope they could imagine.  Always paradoxically both complicated and straightforward, with a deep-seated seriousness, and yet with a childlike understanding of people, the Dragon is likely to catch you off guard with unexpected humor that’s remarkably true and yet not what others would be thinking about.

Dragon or Dark Dragon, INTJs are sure to be able to take the world by storm, but with people who can anchor them in hope and perspective, nothing can get in the way of a healthy Dragon on their way to make the world better.

Male: Sherlock, BBC’s Sherlock
Female: Eleven, Stranger Things
Villain: Loki, Thor and The Avengers

Who are the Type Heroes?  Read the intro here, and stay tuned to meet them all!

Want more information on INTJ, the Dragon?  Read their Cognitive Orientation Guidebook here.

Author’s note – 2/17/17: This post is the 9th in the Type Heroes series, but the first in several years.  Part of the reason it took me so long to come back to this series, even though it is by far the most requested, is because I’ve learned so much in the nearly four years of creating aLBoP (and I learn new things all the time) and I want to do justice to all the beautiful complexity that I’ve learned about each of the cognitive types over the years!  I wish I could just go back immediately and update the previous 8 Type Heroes to the level of detail and nuance that I’ve been able to pour into this one, but that would really clog up my ability to produce new content, especially since 7 types are still desperately waiting for any version of their Type Hero!

But my hope and plan is to finish out the last of the Type Heroes (cue The Last of the Mohicans music in my head) with this degree of balance and depth, and *then* return to update and improve the previous 8 Type Heroes to my new standards, collages included most likely.  So if you’re thinking “Hey!! 😛  Why does INTJ get the oh-so-special treatment??!?!” it’s just because it’s the first in the New and Improved™ Type Heroes!  Super excited for all to come, and hoping it’ll show everyone all the better that anyone can be a hero. <3

At the Beginning | January Thank You Video

We filmed this on our 9th Wedding Anniversary (which was actually January 19th).  Thank you all for being such a huge part of “Never dreaming how our dreams would come true” 💖

aLBoP on Patreon.

The New Phase 2

The new WordPress version of Phase 2 is live!!  *Dance Party!*

We couldn’t wait to re release these tools that can help you understand, quantify and grow in every area of your life, taking the tools from aLBoP you’ve learned about cognition and appreciating all Types of Information, and being able to apply them in entirely new and complex ways.

We’re so excited for the new streamlined version of the entire Phase 2 Intro and its accompanying forum, which you can sign up for, entirely automated!  So no more waiting for Calise and Justin to get on it 😛  ( Our sincere apologies to those who asked for an invite to old Phase 2 and never received it because we were getting ready for the transition. <3)

And when you’ve gotten to read and internalize all the Intro content, then there’s the ongoing full Phase 2 site and forum that you can apply to from the Intro site!

But there’s so much to read and so much to talk about!!  So head over to the Phase 2 Intro site and get yourself self-invited to read the content!  We can’t wait to see you there!!

So much love,

<3 Calise and Justin

Sparkly New aLBoP!

Omigosh guys!  Look look look!!!  aLBoP’s all sparkly and new and WordPressy!!  Oooh, ahhh, wow!! O_O

And it only took… -_- okay it took a long time.  Way longer than I anticipated.  But it seems we had way outgrown Blogger… like two years ago. 😛  We were trying to make a blog format, intended for family vacation pics and pictures of people’s dogs, viable as a full-fledged website format.  Not that blogs can’t be professional. 😉  But I had done an insane amount of jury-rigging to make the COGs, etc. look like professional pages on our poor little outdated Blogger aLBoP.

So when I used the Blogger importer thingy for WordPress, it did save me tons of effort.  Well, compared to retyping the posts myself 😛  But every link had to be updated and 90% of the posts were FUGLY!  *Scream!*  It was so terrifying and overwhelming (and some of the less visited posts might still be nasty looking, I make no promises.)  But we did it!

Between Justin combing every single post and making sure every link was updated (there are 84 posts, FYI, and if anyone needs a bulk URL updater for WordPress, we have one to recommend, because going live would have been literally impossible without it!), and me going through all the major posts *and* 192 COG pages one by one to be sure they were pretty and not full of nasty spacing and picture issues, we finally did it, but we’re pretty well wiped. *tired face*

But… I love it!!!  I love how the new start page looks!  I love how the new contact page looks!  I love the new pics I made for the Type Me! page (all of those today, as a matter of fact :P)!  I love the header and the fact that I figured out all by myself how to change the html so that there aren’t little grey boxes around all the images.  I love the new sidebar blurb and I *really* love the drop down menu at the top!  *Melt*  I love it all!  And even though it took way longer than I anticipated, I really am so proud and I really do feel like it was worth it. <3

Okay, so going forward!  I’m gonna bullet-point these…

  • If you’re waiting on a Typing you already ordered, thank you so much for being patient!  I feel like it would be foolhardy to promise when we’re going to get all caught up, because of the holidays, but we haven’t forgotten and it’s at the top of my aLBoP to-do list!  That’s why it’s the first bullet-point lol 😉
  • “Guaranteed Major Posts” for November, December and January, that you guys earned as a group through your Patreon contributions, will all be coming in January (is the plan anyway).  Feedback from you guys said it was okay to count web versions of the COGs as October’s, which I much appreciate, but I’m very excited for the new stuff we have planned for the new year.  One of the first ones planned is actually Super Simple 1.5 (to go between Part 1 and Part 2… obviously lol) as a more thorough look at the Four Types of Information and differentiating them from each other.  Actually, if you have unresolved questions about the 4Toi, please go leave them on SS:P1, and I’ll try and incorporate them into SS:P1.5 if I can! 😀  Also, we’re really really excited for a new intro to aLBoP video we have planned that we’d love to make one of the January posts, if you guys are cool with that.  It should be a really cool way to introduce new people to aLBoP!
  • Phase 2:  Like we said in the last thank you video, we’re moving Phase 2 and the Forum to WordPress as well, and actually separating it into two parts.  There will be a Phase 2 Intro site and Intro Forum, that has a similar self-invite system to the one we already had in place, for people to read the Phase 2 Intro, get their bearings and ask questions, etc.  But then there will also be a separate main Phase 2 site and Phase 2 Forum for people who are ready for more content after the Intro and other intro-ish posts.  We’re really excited for this, and think it’ll help everyone get the content and attention they need for where they are in the learning process.  We’re also using it as an opportunity to delegate to people we really trust to handle a lot of people’s initial questions about the intro, so Justin and I can spend our efforts on producing new content, rather than answering FAQs on what’s already there.
  • So, because of all this ^, we’re a) not extending new invites to Phase 2 atm and b) going to be working hard on getting the new Phase 2 and Phase 2 Intro sites live.  But with all the time and effort that getting “Phase 1″—as we call this, main aLBoP website lol—live, I am absurdly behind on my Christmas preparations.  Like seriously, I have a ton of DIYs I haven’t even *started* yet! :O  So you might not be able to expect any of that stuff until we get a chance to work on stuff after the holidays.  I mean, we tend to work on stuff on weekends and holidays anyway lol, but we would like to get the chance to spend time with family and, you know, sleep once in awhile. 😉

But seriously guys, I feel like aLBoP is mine again, in a way that I haven’t in a really long time.  I mean aLBoP and all its phases has been the most fulfilling project of my lifetime, but over time I felt like I spent so much time defending everything that aLBoP is, that I wasn’t able to just stretch out and play in the party that is humanity, anymore, which to me is what aLBoP is really all about.  I feel like I can make it about that again, finally. <3

As the holidays and end of the year are approaching, I want to take this opportunity to tell you guys that even when I don’t get to say it, *you* are what make aLBoP a joy to me.  aLBoP has given me many of the most precious relationships I have.  I can’t tell you guys how much I’ve missed everyone on the Forum lately, and how often I think of you all.  I would say individual names but I don’t want to embarrass anyone on the internet lol 😉  Besides, there are so many more of you than I could count anyway!  And I’m sure more of you than I know personally.  But know that your love and support has bolstered me through every hard (and insanely tedious, the past month :P) time, and that I could never do any of this without you guys!  I only hope that I can lift and strengthen you guys as much as you have lifted and strengthened me!

That’s my goal for 2017(:O!), to spend it working on things that will help as many of you as possible, reach new heights and new happiness by understanding yourself and your own potential, more than ever before!  #SquadGoals!  Can I pull that phrase off?  Doubtful. ;P Ah well.

Enjoy the new site organization!  OH!!!  And don’t forget to update your Pins/bookmarks, etc!  Eventually I’ll change all my Pinterest urls, but that is a project for another day. 😛  And leave me new comments if you’re so inclined! 😀  Bittersweetly, all the old ones were lost in the move although I still have *all* of them saved in my email, because that’s how I roll 😉 <3

Merry Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanza, Life Day, or whate’re you celebrate!

Love you guys a bazillion!

<3 Calise

Moving to WordPress, Excuse the Dust

So we’re *finally* making the big move to!!  This should be exciting for not only the main aLBoP site, with hopefully a better layout, better comment section, etc. in the near future, but also for Phase 2 and the Forum, which will be incorporated into subdomains here on instead of Blogspot, etc. (And it will abolish the 100 person private site cap that Blogger has for some dumb reason *eyeroll* that made us make a Phase 2 and 2a 😛 )

Lots of good changes coming!  But in the meantime, the site might go down at some point, hopefully not for long, as we intend to change both our domain registrar and site editor, in one fell swoop… hopefully. 😛  So no fear if the website goes down!  If you have an outstanding typing or anything, none of that is changing so don’t worry!

Our hope is that these change will give aLBoP renewed life and energy, reorganizing so we can put more focus and time into giving you guys the content and attention that brought you here in the first place. 😀

Thank you guys for the amazing 3.5 years we’ve had so far, we’re excited for the ones to come to be even better!  We love you guys so much and thanks for all the awesome support!!

Much love,
<3 Calise and Justin

Halloween Chubby Bunny ~ October Patreon Thank You Video

Chubby Bunny and expanding marshmallow peeps, in costume!  And maybe even some singing…

Uh, pretend this was uploaded on Halloween 😉  We filmed it on the 31st, but weren’t able to get it all edited until the 1st 😛  Don’t forget to leave your favorite aLBoP quote and a video suggestion in the comments, please!! 😀

The web versions of the COGs (Cognition Orientation Guidebooks) are available here.

Click here to learn more about becoming an aLBoP Patron!

Much love,
<3 Calise and Justin


Cognition – The Super Simple Series! | Part 5: Assembling the Cognition Process

Hello again! 🙂  Welcome back for the pivotal climax to understanding the cognition process!  Now we can finally put together all the pieces we’ve accumulated over the course of the past four posts (1, 2, 3, 4).  We’re going to complete the cognition processes! :O  Let’s do it!

And as I always say, *don’t* start here!  You’re going to be so ridiculously confused if you do!  Are you one of those people that flips to the end of the book?!  Well, you can’t do that with this! 😛

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