This personality tip is a bit of a soapbox for me.  One of the most common and damaging things I come across in personality typing, as well as just interacting with human beings on a normal basis, is people saying that who they are excuses being a jerk or hating everyone.  I’m always incredulous about how many people imply that it’s okay for them to be mean, bossy, self-righteous or like their opinions, thoughts or feelings matter more than others’ just because they’re them.  This problem is especially prevalent in T’s but I’ve met my fair share of F’s with superiority complexes as well.

Now, self-confidence is fine.  My ultimate objective is for each person to feel happy, empowered and confident being themselves and not someone else.  But there is a big difference between feeling content being yourself and implying that everyone that doesn’t think or act like you is weird, stupid or intrinsically flawed.  There are some select ways that tending toward being grumpy or arbitrarily obstinate can be endearing (albeit undeveloped) attributes of a person’s character; being mean, dominating or manipulative however isn’t “just something [insert personality type here] does.”  That’s a character flaw, not a personality type.

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